10 Things a Trauma Therapist Is Begging Parents to Stop Doing
Minimizing Their Child’s Feelings Dismissing or downplaying a child’s emotions can invalidate their experiences and make them feel unheard.
Over-Scheduling Their Lives Constantly filling a child’s schedule with activities can overwhelm them and prevent them from having necessary downtime to process their thoughts and feelings.
Using Punishment Instead of Discipline Harsh punishments can instill fear rather than understanding. Focus on discipline that teaches and guides rather than punishes.
Ignoring Signs of Distress Overlooking or dismissing signs of anxiety, depression, or other emotional struggles can lead to more severe issues. Pay attention to changes in behavior and address them promptly.
Projecting Their Own Fears and Anxieties Children can absorb their parents' anxieties and fears. Be mindful of how your emotional state affects your child and seek help if needed to manage your own stress.
Comparing Them to Others Comparisons can damage self-esteem and create feelings of inadequacy. Celebrate your child’s unique qualities and achievements instead.
Avoiding Difficult Conversations Shying away from tough topics can leave children feeling unprepared and unsupported. Approach difficult subjects with honesty and openness, creating a safe space for discussion.
Expecting Perfection Unrealistic expectations can place undue pressure on children, leading to anxiety and fear of failure. Encourage effort and progress rather than perfection.
Not Practicing Self-Care Neglecting your own well-being can negatively impact your ability to care for your child. Model healthy self-care habits to teach your child the importance of looking after themselves.
Isolating Them from Support Systems Preventing children from accessing support from friends, family, or professionals can hinder their ability to cope with trauma.